Every woman has a dream wedding dress…
Weddings… Aren’t they the main goal of women? We grew up with the idea that marriage is the very thing that completes our femininity. Ideally, womanhood means raising a family. So, it starts with finding the right man who can protect you and provide for you for the rest of your life. Then, making cute babies to populate the world with. We were also taught, in school, that our reproductive systems were designed for this very purpose.
Before the Wedding Day proper, pre-nup photos are now required.
This is a showcase of photos that depict private moments of the couple for the world to see. Of how they enjoy each other’s company, the whole world aside.
Some would also present the couples’ travels and adventures together. This is a sneak peek of the relationship and how good they look together. Of how they keep the spice in their lives and how much they want to make sure that they bring out the happiness of each other.
Whoever said that “Every woman has a dream wedding dress…”, did not know that I am not every woman.
I’ve just come to the realization that I never really had this vision of walking down the aisle. I remember playing house with my neighbors and slicing leaves that we’ve plucked somewhere, and cooking them in a tin can with boiling water. We made a make-shift cooking stove with rocks and dried twigs. I cooked for my so-called husband like a good wife was supposed to do. Fast forward and the games that I’ve played never involved anything about being someone’s spouse at all. So playing a wife’s role has been a buried memory since I was 9 years old.
For me, it is quite unfair to question a woman’s status and decisions given the fact that we never have the same experiences and opportunities. Is a spinster really something new? They have existed since the ancient days, haven’t they? I believe that the idea of submission of a woman to a man, comes with the assumption that this is a good man, right? And what if you’ve never found the right man all your life? What if you were meant for single-blessedness?
Try as I may, try as I might, I haven’t found my knight.
Everything beyond the now, is always uncertain. Not all marriages have happy endings. Well, they are not supposed to end since it is supposed to be a union of two people who has made the vow of staying together no matter the weather. Marriage is a decision, and should never be based on feelings alone. Feelings change. Things change. And so, what will hold two people together will be the commitment that they keep for each other.
Weeding out is a process without specific timelines.
Let us not diminish a good woman’s worth by the only options that she had to choose from. Some women decided to settle and they are left with everything that comes with their choice. Marriage is a commitment, and not just a fantasy to be fulfilled. Marriage is something to be taken seriously, so much thought must be put into it before anything else.
I’ve always wanted to do the things that I wanna do. I enjoy the freedom from the dramas and complications that relationships bring. I’ve enjoyed my peace from paranoia and disappointments. And until I find someone who makes my life better than it is now, I prefer to keep things as they are.