Some Go Through Weddings While Some Go Through Weeding

Some Go Through Weddings While Some Go Through Weeding

Every woman has a dream wedding dress…

In the photos: Aimer Jane Dy-Veloso and Dennis Veloso
Photo Credits to: Christopher Colinares
In the photos: Aimer Jane Dy-Veloso and Dennis Veloso

Weddings… Aren’t they the main goal of women? We grew up with the idea that marriage is the very thing that completes our femininity. Ideally, womanhood means raising a family. So, it starts with finding the right man who can protect you and provide for you for the rest of your life. Then, making cute babies to populate the world with. We were also taught, in school, that our reproductive systems were designed for this very purpose.

In the photos: Ardi Eamae Dumadag-Daguiso and Reymond Daguiso
Photo Credits to: Jaypee Noche
In the photos: Ardi Eamae Dumadag-Daguiso
and Reymond Daguiso

Before the Wedding Day proper, pre-nup photos are now required.

This is a showcase of photos that depict private moments of the couple for the world to see. Of how they enjoy each other’s company, the whole world aside.

In the photos: Aimer Jane Dy-Veloso and Dennis Veloso
Photo Credits to: Christopher Colinares
In the photos: Aimer Jane Dy-Veloso and Dennis Veloso

Some would also present the couples’ travels and adventures together. This is a sneak peek of the relationship and how good they look together. Of how they keep the spice in their lives and how much they want to make sure that they bring out the happiness of each other.

In the photos: Ardi Eamae Dumadag-Daguiso and Reymond Daguiso
Photo Credits to: Jaypee Noche
In the photos: Ardi Eamae Dumadag-Daguiso and Reymond Daguiso

Whoever said that “Every woman has a dream wedding dress…”, did not know that I am not every woman.

I’ve just come to the realization that I never really had this vision of walking down the aisle. I remember playing house with my neighbors and slicing leaves that we’ve plucked somewhere, and cooking them in a tin can with boiling water. We made a make-shift cooking stove with rocks and dried twigs. I cooked for my so-called husband like a good wife was supposed to do. Fast forward and the games that I’ve played never involved anything about being someone’s spouse at all. So playing a wife’s role has been a buried memory since I was 9 years old.

For me, it is quite unfair to question a woman’s status and decisions given the fact that we never have the same experiences and opportunities. Is a spinster really something new? They have existed since the ancient days, haven’t they? I believe that the idea of submission of a woman to a man, comes with the assumption that this is a good man, right? And what if you’ve never found the right man all your life? What if you were meant for single-blessedness?

Try as I may, try as I might, I haven’t found my knight.

Everything beyond the now, is always uncertain. Not all marriages have happy endings. Well, they are not supposed to end since it is supposed to be a union of two people who has made the vow of staying together no matter the weather. Marriage is a decision, and should never be based on feelings alone. Feelings change. Things change. And so, what will hold two people together will be the commitment that they keep for each other.

Weeding out is a process without specific timelines.

Let us not diminish a good woman’s worth by the only options that she had to choose from. Some women decided to settle and they are left with everything that comes with their choice. Marriage is a commitment, and not just a fantasy to be fulfilled. Marriage is something to be taken seriously, so much thought must be put into it before anything else.

I’ve always wanted to do the things that I wanna do. I enjoy the freedom from the dramas and complications that relationships bring. I’ve enjoyed my peace from paranoia and disappointments. And until I find someone who makes my life better than it is now, I prefer to keep things as they are.

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37 thoughts on “Some Go Through Weddings While Some Go Through Weeding

  1. Firstly, I loved your title. One thing I would oppose here, I never wanted to get married, even since childhood I hated this concept of wedding. No family issues but but I am very selfish so love is not my thing. 2ndly, c’mon someday you will find your knight in shinning armour even if you dont then you can be ur own knight….. lovely pictures by the way…

  2. Thank you for sharing! I have always dreamt of a wedding, but it wasn’t something I obsessed over like some, and the wedding dress was the least of my worries. As long as you’re happy with yourself than thats all that matters! It takes your happiness to be able to make someone else happy too!

  3. I loved this article. You are very articulate and have alot of wisdom here. You want to marry for all the right reasons. You both have to love each other flaws and all. But in the meantime, just love yourself and be your own bestie

  4. You are very strong and your perspective is healthy. I do hope you find that someone special someday, but if not, you will still be strong.

  5. I was not someone who felt the need to be married. I wanted a great partner to support me for being me. I know people want to get married but it was never a feeling for me.

  6. As a little girl, I wanted to have a wedding. But now that I’m 30, I don’t care if I find the right one or not. Life is about living happily and the fullest, and sometimes not getting marry is a good thing. I just let the wind take me wherever I go.

  7. I was married once but didn’t have a wedding because in the midst of planning it, people got on my nerves. I told my ex-husband to let’s just go to the courthouse and get married. And that’s what we did. The next time I get married, I wont have many people in the planning process.

    Great article and love the photos!

    Candy Rachelle
    Keeping Up With Candy
    http://www.keepingupwithcandy.com

  8. I never really dreamed of getting married. I’m on my second marriage. My first was very traditional, and I look back and feel like I did it for show. My second was all for my husband and me and it was SO MUCH MORE ME. And him. I loved it.

  9. Weddings and couples being drawn together to commit to each other in marriage is such a beautiful thing to me. I see my parents about to achieve 50 years of wedding bliss this year and it gives me hope. Thank you for sharing this.

  10. I’m sure you are probably sick of hearing it but when it is meant to be, it will be. I believe in destiny and true love and take comfort knowing the best is yet to come! In the meantime try to focus on being happy with who you are and not on someone else to make you happy.

  11. wow I never really had the vision of walking down an aisle either. I never dreamed about it, I haven’t been planning it since i was younger like a lot of women do. I could have the most simple wedding at the beach just me and him and that would be perfect. I don’t really care for the big party to entertain OTHER people. I rather spend thousands on us, traveling the world and having fun!

  12. I love your pictures and the topic renaissance with me. I too am still looking for my Mr. Right. There are many ways to find him but which way is the one which will lead me down the path to that elusive person? Hmmm…

  13. I am so thankful that as women we have so many options these days than just being a house wife! Being married and having children absolutely isn’t for everyone, and I love that we each get to take our own path and find our own purpose for our life. I am sure you have so much more in store for you than you could have ever imagined, whether you end up married or not! 🙂

  14. I honestly never wanted to get married and didn’t have that ‘dream wedding’ fantasy that so many women talk about. When I met my now husband, the wedding was more about marking that step together – about the marriage, not the wedding itself. The only children we have are our ‘furkids’ and we are so happy with our life as it is right now. Not saying we would never consider adding children into the mix, or that we haven’t talked about it in the past, but it’s certainly not a make or break part of our relationship.

    1. Wow! So happy for you! I believe that life is what we make it, and we know better which makes us happy and which we can do without! As long as we don’t settle to please other people instead of ourselves. Kudos for being fur parents together! 🖤

  15. as they say, no need to rush. i am quite surprised and happy at the same time that some people find their happy endings after their first or second marriage. then, it makes me realize that the first one needs probably a workout especially the decision to tie the knot; or it’s just that all are really meant to happen – we never really know. again now, let’s just prepare ourselves. when we strive our best, we attract the right person.

    1. So far, I am enjoying my life. And my dreams are getting bigger. And I really want to work on them this time. So, love can come or wait or what. Haha!

  16. Even if I’m never getting married I’ve had the dream wedding dress. There’s no need to rush these things. My partner and I have been together 10 years, engaged for 3, and called it off 3 years ago in favour of a house and possibly getting eloped in our 30s.

  17. You know, I never had a wedding dress picked out but I definitely thought I would have a big, beautiful wedding some day. We intended to do so, but had a quick courthouse one first. As time went on we realized we really didn’t want to spend a ton of money on a wedding when we were already married. Years later, I have no regrets.

  18. Wedding dresses are so very special! I went for a simple one but a lot of people want something more fancy

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