Life is Bittersweet
Yes, I am still on self-therapy. With God still, yes. I cannot totally do it alone.
I’ve went through months of struggle with myself. And I have come to terms with some of my issues. The rest are still a work-in-progress. Hey, this is real life. Not a book or a movie.
So, one of the things that I did was to actually disconnect myself from social media. Well, not totally but a huge part of my day is not on it unless it is for work or business. And of course, for this blog!
I have actually deactivated my personal Facebook account and created a professional account instead. I have made my new account the new Admin for all of my Business Pages. And no, I do not post anything on that new account except for having a profile picture and a cover photo. As I have said, Social Media Has Gone Socially Toxic! I just want to keep myself away from all the negativity.
My life is more peaceful without Facebook.
Funny that it should come from me as I was very much addicted to it. I post almost everything that I do and so much selfies in my younger years. I treated it like a documentation of my life and like a diary. Because to be honest, I may have a good memory for things that I choose (like work), but I do lose memories of things that has happened to me or around me. Most of the time, it is a photo that reminds me of a certain event in the past.
My memory bank is very selective. Sadly, it can keep more of the bad experiences than the good ones.
So, as you can see, I do need to make some rewiring of my brain. Which I am actively doing now. To keep more of the good stuff than the bad ones, to spare my heart from so much heartaches of things that have already passed.
Acceptance is key. Yes, totally! And also doing something about our limitations, short-comings, wrong decisions, mistakes, missteps, and imbalanced perceptions. Action is crucial, if you really want a change in your life.
I’m still keeping my original FB Messenger though. I cannot totally disconnect from friends and family, of course. And I still do have a few on-going business deals.
So you may ask, why the need to deactivate? Because I don’t want to be on it anymore. I started an FB Account because a friend asked me to do so. It took me a while to follow suit, actually. Same with Instagram. But I don’t have a personal Instagram account anymore, I am only keeping my blog IG account.
The challenge here is extracting all of my photos and videos and figuring out where I can store all of them. Yes, I used Facebook as a photo and video dump site. It’s the smart thing to do since my laptop won’t be able to keep all of my files, and I don’t have any external storage that’s big enough as well. I might just get one. Or I’ll think of something. I have to. But I’ll deal with that later. Not really a life and death situation.
Having a selective memory is not bad at all, as long as you select your memory well as well. You may call it some kind of a re-programming where in I am doing away with thoughts that are not good to dwell on anymore. I am in the process of a thought-diet, if you will. I call it Remove, Reduce, or Replace Program.
How it works?
Remove memories, ideas, feelings, beliefs, attitudes, behaviors, and what-not that are not really healthy for you. If you cannot totally remove them, then maybe you can start by reducing the energy that you spend on such things. If even that is not possible, then replace them with the opposite or find an alternative that would be a lesser evil. Sounds easy, but no! Yet still doable with constant practice.
In this case, since I cannot totally remove Facebook from my life because of my businesses and connections, I deactivated my original account and kept Messenger instead. And I have reduced my exposure on it with the new account, which only has more or less 10 friends. I did not add people, they found the new one an added it, by the way. Plus, I don’t make any posts.
And you may ask, how will you keep up with the times if you don’t spend time on FB? We’ll, I have replaced it with Youtube (the only social media platform that I stay in). So, yes, I still do watch the news. And a lot of educational videos. I rarely read comments on YT. So, less exposure to the opinions of know-it-alls.
So, yeah, this is part of the struggles that I have been dealing with. And it is just a small percentage of my life-changing decisions right now. I am gearing towards a more calm and peaceful living. Away from unnecessary noises that will not help me anyway.
And lastly, my life is not all bitter. It’s bittersweet. I have a lot of things to look forward to now. I am going for personal growth, professional growth, and spiritual growth. We have to go through the process to progress. And no, nothing will and can stop me from making that choice. Not even its highs and lows.
I have just went through a dark and lonely phase, that I thought I would never get out of. After staying at such a low point, a quick elation came with the results of the solutions that I took for myself. I’ve felt elevated. From hopeless to hopeful, that quick!
So, whatever it is that you are going through right now, it will pass. Nothing is permanent in this world, but constant change. The world is evolving, you are evolving. Growth can sometimes taste bitter, but trust me, it has a very sweet aftertaste.